Overcoming Insecurity Is Important!

Overcoming insecurity is necessary for the mature development of the individual and for increasing self esteem. It is important because when one overcomes insecurity, one feels safer, feels better about oneself and is much more dependable and reliable.

5 Steps To Overcoming Insecurity

1). Tell Yourself The Truth

2). Take Responsibility

3). Choose Life

4). Self Esteem Affirmations

5). Vision Board

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1). Tell Yourself The Truth

It is easy to lie to oneself. We make up all kinds of stories to make us feel better, and we don’t do a good job of it. The stories we make up don’t really make us feel any better and in fact make us feel worse.

Telling ourselves the truth means being ruthlessly honest with ourselves. For example: if we are having a bad day, be honest about it. Tell yourself the truth. Don’t sugarcoat it and don’t minimize it (make it less than what it appears).

If we can stop the self-deception, we can stop the insecurity, and learn to tell ourselves the truth. When we tell ourselves the truth about a situation we find ourselves in, we can learn from that situation overcoming insecurity and boosting our self esteem.   

2). Take Responsibility

Learning to take responsibility for oneself is learning to be powerful. Being powerful is the opposite of feeling like a victim or giving one’s power away to circumstances. Giving ones power away to circumstances is saying the circumstances of one’s life are bigger or more important than oneself.

When we actually learn to take responsibility we take ownership for ourselves. We own our opinions, thoughts, feelings and actions. When we own it, insecurity is not possible.  See self esteem exercises.

3). Choose Life

To choose life is to affirm that life works. When we say that life works we may not have all the evidence to say that everything is working, however, most of it is working.

To choose death is to affirm that life doesn’t work. Nothing is working out and the circumstances in our lives are certainly less than favorable.

4). Self Esteem Affirmations

Self esteem affirmations are designed to change ones mindset from a negative one to a positive one. The affirmations are written in the present tense or said out loud in front of a mirror. If the affirmations are written out, space is given for the reply of the ego mind. For example: I Dave am a secure, powerful man. My egos response written beside the positive affirmation – Oh yeah, you’re just as insecure as the next person.

Write out the positive affirmation 30 times a day along with the ego’s response. If you notice an ego response that repeats itself, take that statement and turn it into a positive self affirmation. Repeat the process writing out the affirmation 30 times.

What this does is drill down to the most negative ego statement and turning it around into a positive one. Just like the layers of an onion until one gets to the core statement. When this happens expect change to occur at the subconscious level. Circumstances in one’s life will change to reflect the new positive self affirmation. See self esteem affirmations.

5). Vision Board

A vision board is a poster board with inspirational words and images. The words and images are cut out from old magazines and books. A time frame of 1 month, 6 months, or a year or more, is written out at the top of the poster board. The poster board is then put on a wall and used for inspiration. See affirmation posters.

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Overcoming insecurity is necessary to feeling safe, and to being powerful, dependable and reliable. It also increases our self esteem.

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